My take on the ‘Ms. Ogo Onuochukwu case’

http://lindaikeji.blogspot.com/2012/03/my-story-ogochukwu-onuchukwu-woman.html?m=1

Please refer to the following link above for the gist of the story…… After reading this touching story and the comments made by Linda Ikeji and other commentators alike I had to correct some things I felt were misconstrued by the commentators or of misconceptions they might have. 1. It was obvious she was ‘in love’ with this man when she married him and I put ‘in love’ in parenthesis because hollywood and nollywood have defined love by dwelling on physical things-attraction, wealth, romance,etc. Tv shows like ‘the Bachelor’ are designed to make people think that having strong feelings for someone is enough to want to spend the rest of your life with that person. The truth is anyone you are going to become one with or have sex with in or out of the context of marriage must have the fear of God. Sex spiritually is a merging of the soul( ‘and the two shall become one flesh’) that means you are emotionally and spiritually bound to that person for life. For the woman, it is worse because you see God is not stupid by designing sex for marriage and rightly so. When man sinned part of the woman’s punishment is that no matter how successful she(a woman) will be she will always look to the man(her father, boyfriend, husband) for validation, he will always be master over her.(Gen. 3v16) what this means is that the woman was cursed with the mental and emotional flaw of perpetual insecurities that only a man can invalidate for them(make them feel better). That’s why no matter how loved Ogo’s family made her feel only the ‘love’ of the man she was spiritually and emotionally tied to could be enough. I mean why would he keep her for seven years without a child if there wasn’t something there. 2. She said the family didn’t like her from the start and the husband did little or nothing to change that. That him and they were hostile towards her. It still boil down having the fear of God and neither him or his family did. They may have been christians and by that I mean church goers but they didn’t fear or love God because God is love and we cannot claim to love God if we don’t love our fellow man. It has nothing to do with what tribe they were from and yes some tribes are still very backwards but if that family was a strong God fearing one the story would have been different. 3. Finally, what happened to her own family, I will tell you- they married for money, sold their soul to the devil because I’m sure they must have seen the signs but did not try hard enough to discourage their daughter. Kevin’s family was too rich and powerful for any authority to stop them(I don’t think so). They must have tried to make ogo leave quietly to preserve their pride but to no avail and finally turned a deaf ear till they found out she was dying and still only this man could foot her medical bills abi? Finally, what church did she attend and who were her friends, neighbours, etc. The bible says we should not judge. Only God can judge. We do not know the full story and will probably never will. These are just my thoughts, nothing personal. May her soul rest in peace. Amen Posted with WordPress for BlackBerry.

Animal Instincts

Today, I witnessed a scene from the jungle as I alighted from a motorcycle(okada) and stood waiting to cross the road on a popular dual carriage way to my destination. Two plainly clad men stood with me right at edge of the road divider just before the roundabout looking like they were waiting to cross too and at the time I didn’t take notice of them but I was soon to find out to my utter shock that they were actually lying in wait. Let me take a moment to explain something. Sometimes(and this is pretty much known by all including traffic wardens and the police), the okada guys would drop off a passenger on the expressway right on the edge of the other side of the divider and turn right round the edge, ignoring the roundabout while the authorities watch on.(Back to the two plainly clad men) like I said, it was like a scene out of the jungle on discovery channel where the lioness would lie obscured in the brush waiting patiently for the right moment to strike. I watched first out of the corner of my eye as an okada pulled up behind me and dropped off a passenger then the okada made to turn round the divider’s edge(all this while those men didn’t move an inch) slowed a little to call for passengers and at this point one of the men stepped forward raising his hand as if to hail the okada while the other guy passed right in front of the okada as if crossing the road and before I knew it the first guy pounced on the okada guy holding the back of the bike firmly while the other guy blocked the okada from the front cornering the okada guy. The okada guy tried to zoom off but it was too late. He couldn’t even put up much of a fight. One of d men now climbed the bike behind the okada guy and commandeered it across the road where α bunch of soldiers or policemen stood watching and cheering, all smiles on their corrupt faces. As I crossed the road I could see them all thinking the same thing…BREAKFAST…..Smh

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