http://lindaikeji.blogspot.com/2012/03/my-story-ogochukwu-onuchukwu-woman.html?m=1
Please refer to the following link above for the gist of the story…… After reading this touching story and the comments made by Linda Ikeji and other commentators alike I had to correct some things I felt were misconstrued by the commentators or of misconceptions they might have. 1. It was obvious she was ‘in love’ with this man when she married him and I put ‘in love’ in parenthesis because hollywood and nollywood have defined love by dwelling on physical things-attraction, wealth, romance,etc. Tv shows like ‘the Bachelor’ are designed to make people think that having strong feelings for someone is enough to want to spend the rest of your life with that person. The truth is anyone you are going to become one with or have sex with in or out of the context of marriage must have the fear of God. Sex spiritually is a merging of the soul( ‘and the two shall become one flesh’) that means you are emotionally and spiritually bound to that person for life. For the woman, it is worse because you see God is not stupid by designing sex for marriage and rightly so. When man sinned part of the woman’s punishment is that no matter how successful she(a woman) will be she will always look to the man(her father, boyfriend, husband) for validation, he will always be master over her.(Gen. 3v16) what this means is that the woman was cursed with the mental and emotional flaw of perpetual insecurities that only a man can invalidate for them(make them feel better). That’s why no matter how loved Ogo’s family made her feel only the ‘love’ of the man she was spiritually and emotionally tied to could be enough. I mean why would he keep her for seven years without a child if there wasn’t something there. 2. She said the family didn’t like her from the start and the husband did little or nothing to change that. That him and they were hostile towards her. It still boil down having the fear of God and neither him or his family did. They may have been christians and by that I mean church goers but they didn’t fear or love God because God is love and we cannot claim to love God if we don’t love our fellow man. It has nothing to do with what tribe they were from and yes some tribes are still very backwards but if that family was a strong God fearing one the story would have been different. 3. Finally, what happened to her own family, I will tell you- they married for money, sold their soul to the devil because I’m sure they must have seen the signs but did not try hard enough to discourage their daughter. Kevin’s family was too rich and powerful for any authority to stop them(I don’t think so). They must have tried to make ogo leave quietly to preserve their pride but to no avail and finally turned a deaf ear till they found out she was dying and still only this man could foot her medical bills abi? Finally, what church did she attend and who were her friends, neighbours, etc. The bible says we should not judge. Only God can judge. We do not know the full story and will probably never will. These are just my thoughts, nothing personal. May her soul rest in peace. Amen Posted with WordPress for BlackBerry.
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